Wednesday, May 18 2022

21 Pieces of Advice From a 21 Year-Old

21 Pieces of Advice From a 21 Year-Old

All photos credited to Molly Fisher.

  1. You are young. Now is the time to do the things you want to do. Eat that cake, go on that trip, ask that person on a date. Your time is now, so stop putting it off until “later.”
  2. You can wear anything. Feel like wearing a crop top? Do it. Feel like wearing big baggy sweatshirts because you adore comfort? Do it. Don’t let other people’s standards or judgments change who YOU want to be.
  3. It’s completely normal to need your parents. Just because you are an “adult” now doesn’t mean you can’t call your mom when you are sad, or cry with her, or give her a long hug.
  4. Spiders are not scary. Remember that they are probably more scared of you than you are of them (let’s just agree that spiders have feelings for the purposes of this argument, okay?).
  5. When someone gives you a compliment, just say thank you. When someone compliments you, it doesn’t benefit them, so it’s probably genuine. Deflecting it just makes everyone feel awkward.Credit: Molly Fisher
  6. Don’t judge other people. No one likes to be judged, and everyone is different. There isn’t one right way to do anything. We are all just trying to figure out this crazy journey called life, so focus on your own path, and let others find their own way.
  7. Drink more water. Seriously, have you ever Googled the benefits of water? It clears skin, gives you energy, keeps you hydrated, reduces bloating, and keeps your heart healthy, just to name a few. Plus, as a bonus, you can add fruit to it for flavour AND nutrients… water is pretty darn good.
  8. Stop saying “like.” Why does our generation include this filler in, like, every conversation? Challenge yourself to listen to your next conversation and count how many times you hear yourself and your friends say “like.” Then imagine yourself as the CEO of a large company one day. Unprofessional? Yes. Can you break the habit? Absolutely.
  9. You don’t need to please everyone. If someone is making you feel like you are not good enough, create some distance, find new friends, and love yourself because you deserve far more than the negative judgments of others.
  10. Eat the chocolate. Just listen to your intuition, eat the chocolate and then move on with your day. Did you know that chocolate is actually a powerful source of antioxidants? It doesn’t have to be a “guilty” pleasure.
  11. No means no and yes means yes. It’s about time our generation stepped up and learned the meaning of these two fundamental words: no ≠ yes.
  12. Compliment someone. It costs nothing, and it could completely change someone’s day, week, month, or heck, maybe you just changed someone’s entire life by telling them how nice their smile is. It’s a tiny action, but it’s worth it. Bonus! Have you ever tried simply complimenting yourself? You are pretty great, and it’s about time you start giving yourself some credit.
  13. People love and care for you. The people who are in your life are there for a reason. Despite what you have gone through, and whether you believe you had pushed them away, they stayed.  Be thankful (and go give them a big hug!).
  14. Take more pictures. Someday, you will wish that you took more pictures of the small things. Although this is your “normal” now, you may not always remember what your bedroom looked like or your dining room table. Just snap a picture to show your future spouse or grandchildren. Appreciate nature? Snap a photo. It doesn’t all have to be “Instagram worthy.”
  15. Treat yourself every once in a while. You deserve some self-love because you are unique and beautiful.
  16. Get outside. Seriously, it’s as simple as that. Go for a walk. Look at the fluffy white clouds in the blue summer sky. Look at the leaves changing colour in the fall. Admire how perfect the snow shimmers on the tree branches in the winter moonlight. Take a long, deep breath to smell the damp spring air as the flowers begin to bloom. #InstantStressRelief
  17. Numbers do not define you. You are worth more than your grades, your weight, or your age. You have never seen yourself laughing with friends, watched your eyes light up when you are talking about your passion, or felt the warm embrace of your own hug. You are incredible. You are smart, you are kind, and you are unique. Be yourself, do what you love, be grateful for all the people in your life, and just enjoy Credit: Molly Fisheryour youth without trying to quantify it.
  18. Mistakes are normal. Mistakes are lessons and help us grow into successful humans. Don’t doubt yourself or let a small “oops” hold you back. Recognize the error, smile, and move on.  
  19. Say yes. It is good to step outside of your comfort zone sometimes, it makes that zone bigger. Even if it is terrifying, saying yes could open up a whole new world or excitement and possibilities.
  20. Change is inevitable. The only consistent thing in life is change, and it’s about time you get used to that. 
  21. Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask questions if you don’t understand something -  it’s the easiest way to learn. In conversations, ask the other person more questions than they ask you and *wha-bam,* look at you, getting past small talk. Congratulations, you’re on your way to #adulting.